Wednesday, December 6th, 2017 (One week before my son’s 3rd birthday!)
Flashback: If someone told me 5 years ago that I would be a Mom in 2014 I wouldn’t have believed a word they said for a single minute. I literally went from being a spoiled and somewhat selfish, single gal in her 20’s working in the entertainment industry and traveling around Chicago to host beauty and fashion events and mix and mingle alongside the city’s most popular socialites. I even had my own Youtube show at one point and it was titled “The Glamorous Life” because life back then was in fact pretty “Glamorous.” I would hit up the Water Tower Macys on Michigan Avenue to get my makeup done at least once a week, spend countless evenings shopping and getting manicures, and visiting upscale hair salons to perfect my color and try out the trendiest new hairstyles. I even had the luxury of spending a minimum of two hours per night at the gym on days when I didn’t have events to attend.
I had graduated college in 2011 from Loyola University, I had the cutest 1-bedroom Northside apartment right on the lake (which was perfect for my runs on lakeshore drive to help keep me fit), I had this perfect boyfriend who was in the Navy and happened to live in Spain while we were dating, and I had just began traveling internationally and exploring the world. Things were pretty dope and all I had to worry about at that point in my life was building my brand, staying fabulous, and enjoying my early-to-mid twenties.
That is, until life took an unexpected turn and things got… REAL! My boyfriend and I found out that we were expecting a baby in the winter of 2014. Of course there was all kinds of excitement, nervousness, confusion, and that constant feeling of butterflies floating around my stomach because I knew that I was starting a new chapter of my life. But all in all, I was sooo happy and I couldn’t wait to meet my new baby! I just felt so good about my decision and finally having the chance to start a family of my own and truly love someone more than I love myself. Now I’ll be completely honest because that’s the only way that I know how to be. When my significant other and I found out that we were expecting we faced quite a bit of judgement and were confronted with a lot of questions like “When are you guys going to get married?” “When is the wedding?” “What’s next for you guys?” “Are you going to get married before the baby comes?” Every day there was always something about marriage and jumping over the broom because for some, this seemed to be the right thing to do when a baby’s on the way.
However, one of my biggest attributes is that I’ve always been a really independent woman and I believe in doing things on my time and when it’s just right for me. Sure, I would have probably preferred to be married first before starting a family and I guess have a little more structure in my relationship, but sometimes things don’t always work out the way we plan and as adults we just have to keep moving forward, embrace our decisions and press on even when things get tough. We’re designed for this! So that’s exactly what I did. I welcomed the greatest blessing of my life, my son Noah (whom I affectionately refer to as “Baby Noah” since he will always be my baby). I even started an entirely new brand called “The Little Dapper Collection” that gives back to children with special needs and medical illness through promoting fashion with a cause. Together, Baby Noah and I have been featured on TV several times this year and in other countless media outlets because of our work for children and the impact that we are making in their lives.
My Current Situation: My life today is nothing close to what I expected if I envisioned how things would be in 2017. But you better believe that I am insanely happy and beyond fortunate to be the person and Mother that God has developed me to be. I have a growing children’s brand that has inspired so many families and given back to children’s related organizations around the nation. I have overcome a series of personal challenges that my family has faced in regards to my son and his setbacks with having special needs. And I have even been the voice and shoulder to cry on for other family’s experiencing similar situations. My life as a Mom didn’t break me or ruin my big plans. Instead, it grew me and inspired even bigger than the imaginable!
Yes, sometimes I do frustrated by those annoying sleepless nights when all I want to do is cuddle up in bed and close my eyes for just 15 minutes. Sure, it’s difficult finding a babysitter sometimes when you want to make plans and have a small dose of Mommy-time. And of course I’m still struggling to drop that irking baby weight from 3 years ago (smh). But you know what, I wouldn’t trade any of it for the world and there’s not a day that goes by that I would be willing to give any of it up.
Life can get pretty crazy being a Mom, but it’s our beautiful children that help us see the light at the end of the tunnel each day and give us the motivation to keep on going! I’m enjoying this busy, crazy, heartfelt ride and most of all, I can’t wait to complete the rest of my book filled with chapters of my life as a Mom!